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Halloween 2006. Art had been diagnosed with Stage IV Large B-Cell Lymphoma two months before. Halloween was our FAVORITE time of year. Art loved dressing up, sometimes in costumes no one got. One year, when we lived in a small town in North Carolina, I dressed in all white. He dressed in all black. We went as "each other." In 2006, the costumes just came to us. Art went as Mr. Clean cause he said, "my body is riddled with cancer. I'm anything but clean. And it's the easiest

For the first time in 16 years, I celebrated my birthday in Connecticut, where I grew up. Being with a few high school friends, my sisters and my mother was a great way to celebrate another trip around the earth. But I missed the old birthday tradition. Art and I started a birthday tradition when we first started living together. I don’t remember on whose birthday the tradition started but I do remember the first celebration in our apartment in Norwalk, CT. The tradition incl

It feels like people equate cancer with don't-invite-anywhere! She has cancer, not some contagious disease! Ask your friend with cancer if she'd like you to host a small get-together. Simple, small and easy are the key words here. Having cancer is isolating because most people think, "Oh, she's sick. I can't invite her." Or "I don't want to make her feel bad by inviting her when she can't come." So instead your cancer friend feels hurt which is caused by your fear of hurtin