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I had a rough few days last week. I didn't eat as well as I usually do. I worked longer hours than usual. I got less than 6 hours of...

"My father has cancer." Michelle (not her real name) told her boss. At first, her boss was understanding. 'We'll do whatever we can to...

“I didn’t want to share the story with you because I was afraid you’d cry.” I was talking to an ex-coworker of Art’s. They had reached...

Saturday will mark the 13th anniversary of Art's death. A few months ago, I was struggling with old, unexpressed grief. Old grief is...

You're a manager. You feel like you're a good one. Then one day, your employee tells you they have cancer, and you find yourself...

“I learned a lot about myself from my kids!” Most of the time, when a parent says that I find they mean they have learned how to be more...

March 2009 Four weeks before Art died A caregiver, to me, used to be the person who was paid to give care to an aging adult. It wasn’t...

Sometimes my book makes me sad. Art never got to read it. He wasn’t alive when I decided to write it. Sometimes I look at the book, and...

Pallas and Ezra 2012 We like to think we are trustworthy managers and employees but our actions are what make us trustworthy not our...

If you have an employee with cancer, your cancer bias may be hurting you, your team, and the employee with cancer. What are biases?...

I have a daily gratitude practice. It’s not fancy. I don’t skip around the house saying nice things about myself to myself. But it does...

If you've been following me on my blog or on IG, you might have seen this photo before. A photographer took it in December 2019, which...

I just spent about 3 hours over the last few days trying to construct this meaningful, inspiring post. One that would leave you feeling...

I have to say I'm a little disappointed and unsettled. My 27th wedding anniversary is coming up on Friday, and well … I'm ok. I feel ok. ...

Art's boss was the third person we called the day my late husband, Art, was diagnosed with cancer. We were still in the doctor's office....

It's benefit renewal time for many and HR teams are in the middle of open enrollment (or should be wrapping it. If you have an employee...

I had raised my hand several times, asked a question, and commented in chat as they asked participants to do. But none of the facilities...

When I went into labor with Pallas, I was sure I was having a boy. Art and I were never interested in finding out the sex of our kids....

A break from the tips... to bring you grieving kids. This is what grief in children looks like. Do you see anything unusual? No? That's...

Managing an employee with a health crisis is not easy. You're balancing your need for the team to be productive and caring with your...

HR's role when there is traumatic death on site. On October 21, Alec Baldwin accidentally shot Halyna Hutchins and wounded Joel Souza....

Let me know which one you are. Knowing what you are and what the employee with a health crisis is, is key to supporting them, their...

Did you just say, "If you need anything, let me know" to your employee with a health crisis?" If so, you may be a lazy manager. I just...

When you picture someone with cancer, what comes to mind? Bald, skinny, and sunken eyes? Yup, me too. You're not alone. But that image...