This "Thing" Saved My Life
Today is National Relaxation Day! I just discovered this holiday, and I love it. National Relaxation Day advocates chilling out and...
- Jun 29
- 2 min
My Family's Well
Today I am returning from a five-day visit with my family. It was a family reunion, minus my oldest son and my oldest cousin and his...
- Jun 8
- 2 min
5 Silly Texts to Send to Your Friend with Cancer
You want to support your employee, coworker, or friend with cancer, but you're not gonna offer to make or send a meal, offer the clean...
- Jun 1
- 3 min
Do you need to feel sexy in order to help?
I just took stock of my underwear drawer. It needs help. Having not dated for a few years, I had let plain colors and dullness in invade...
- May 25
- 1 min
This Sucks
There is only one word to describe how I feel today, sad. Sadness is a hard emotion because, most of the time, we don’t want to feel it....
- May 18
- 3 min
4 Common misconceptions about cancer
From the idea that some companies are holding back the cure to all cancers to cancer is contagious, there are many myths about cancer....
- May 11
- 3 min
How to Help Someone When You're Depressed
I had a rough few days last week. I didn't eat as well as I usually do. I worked longer hours than usual. I got less than 6 hours of...
- Apr 27
- 4 min
5 Things You Can Do to Support Your Team During a Cancer Crisis
"My father has cancer." Michelle (not her real name) told her boss. At first, her boss was understanding. 'We'll do whatever we can to...
- Apr 20
- 3 min
How to Honor a Death Anniversary!
“I didn’t want to share the story with you because I was afraid you’d cry.” I was talking to an ex-coworker of Art’s. They had reached...
- Apr 13
- 6 min
His Eulogy Part 2
Saturday will mark the 13th anniversary of Art's death. A few months ago, I was struggling with old, unexpressed grief. Old grief is...
- Apr 6
- 3 min
3 Things Your Employee Wishes You Would Say When They Tell You They Have Cancer
You're a manager. You feel like you're a good one. Then one day, your employee tells you they have cancer, and you find yourself...
- Mar 31
- 6 min
Three Lessons I Learned From My Boys About Managing Through Cancer
“I learned a lot about myself from my kids!” Most of the time, when a parent says that I find they mean they have learned how to be more...
- Feb 9
- 2 min
Caregiver vs Care taker
March 2009 Four weeks before Art died A caregiver, to me, used to be the person who was paid to give care to an aging adult. It wasn’t...
- Feb 2
- 2 min
Art Never Got to See This
Sometimes my book makes me sad. Art never got to read it. He wasn’t alive when I decided to write it. Sometimes I look at the book, and...
- Jan 26
- 5 min
Does Your Employee Trust You?
Pallas and Ezra 2012 We like to think we are trustworthy managers and employees but our actions are what make us trustworthy not our...
- Jan 19
- 4 min
Your Cancer Bias is Hurting Your Team
If you have an employee with cancer, your cancer bias may be hurting you, your team, and the employee with cancer. What are biases?...
- Jan 12
- 2 min
How I Stay Sane On Tough Days
I have a daily gratitude practice. It’s not fancy. I don’t skip around the house saying nice things about myself to myself. But it does...
- Jan 7
- 2 min
This is What Adult Joy Looks Like
If you've been following me on my blog or on IG, you might have seen this photo before. A photographer took it in December 2019, which...
- Dec 23, 2021
- 2 min
This is NOT A Stupid Inspiring Post
I just spent about 3 hours over the last few days trying to construct this meaningful, inspiring post. One that would leave you feeling...
- Dec 15, 2021
- 2 min
The anniversary That Isn't
I have to say I'm a little disappointed and unsettled. My 27th wedding anniversary is coming up on Friday, and well … I'm ok. I feel ok. ...
- Dec 8, 2021
- 3 min
What To Do When Your Boss Has Cancer
Art's boss was the third person we called the day my late husband, Art, was diagnosed with cancer. We were still in the doctor's office....
- Dec 1, 2021
- 3 min
If I get cancer, I hope I have Aetna Insurance
It's benefit renewal time for many and HR teams are in the middle of open enrollment (or should be wrapping it. If you have an employee...
- Nov 24, 2021
- 2 min
The Gift That Returns 10X For Your Employee with Cancer
I had raised my hand several times, asked a question, and commented in chat as they asked participants to do. But none of the facilities...
- Nov 22, 2021
- 3 min
She's 22 today!
When I went into labor with Pallas, I was sure I was having a boy. Art and I were never interested in finding out the sex of our kids....