This is a photo of our little family at my oldest son's graduation.
This is a photo of post-resilience glow.
When my late husband, Art, and I were young parents, we would tell ourselves (and anyone who would listen) we just wanted our kids to be happy. But happiness is a feeling, not a goal. And as a goal, it can be the recipe for discontent life. I think happiness as a goal fosters sadness and depression. If you expect to be happy all the time and you are not, it leads one to think there is something wrong with them! (If you are not happy all the time, you are a human.)
After Art's first entanglement with cancer, we change what we wanted for our kids. We told ourselves (and anyone who would listen) we wanted our kids to be resilient.
And boy, did they have many opportunities to practice resilience!