How to say good-bye to someone you love

My stepfather, Bill, died last month.

During Christmas, I took my daughter and youngest son to see him so we could say good-bye. This experience was notably different from the first time I said goodbye to someone who was dying. When I whispered those words to my husband, he was unconscious. I found out later that our doctor was notorious for NOT having the he’s-going-to-die conversations so, by the time he had it with us, Art was unconscious and it was very clear that he was going to die within a few days. He wasn’t awake when the kids said goodbye to him. He didn’t get to say all the things you would hope a father would say to his children in the last days of his life.