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Caregiver vs Care taker

March 2009 Four weeks before Art died

A caregiver, to me, used to be the person who was paid to give care to an aging adult.

It wasn’t until a few years after Art died that I claimed the title for myself. Before then, I was just his wife. I was the wife who had just enough medical education (ex-paramedic) and was curious about the medical procedures and drugs. Other medical professionals often asked, “Are you a doctor?” including doctors who didn’t know me.

In hindsight, some of those “Are you a doctor?” may have been a polite way of saying, “Lady, back off!” :D

Anyway, it wasn’t until the fourth year after his death that I said, “I was my husband’s caregiver.”

I would sometimes interchange the word caretaker. But it always felt off to me. And then, I looked up the definition of the two words.

A caregiver takes care of people.

A caretaker takes care of things, like houses, church grounds, and buildings.

And ever since then, I have tried to set as many people straight as I can.

I gave care to Art. I loved him, and I CARED for him up until his last breath.

In 2020, 53 million Americans are giving unpaid care to an adult over the age of 18. (61% of them are working.)

So next time your employee, coworker, or friend talks about taking care of his wife who has cancer, they are not care-taking…


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Caregiving in the US 2020, accessed 22, January 2022,

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